My wife and I are in one of the busiest seasons of our life. We currently have four young children, lead a church, lead a coaching business, and are renovating a house.
While we are definitely blessed, we have to be careful that our busy schedules don’t push us away from staying on the same page. For this reason, dialogue with one another is critical to the health of our marriage.
There are times when good communication comes more naturally and is not as rushed. This is what I have found to work for us.
1. Nightly Devotional.
When Christa and I are in bed for the night, we have a couple devotional that we read together. It goes over a ton of subjects such as communication, children, intimacy, and faith.
At the end of each devotion, there are questions designed to help strike up a conversation on the subject we just went over. This helps us connect with one another’s heart on a daily basis.
2. Weekly Schedule Layout.
At the end of my weekly review, the goal is for Christa and me to go over our upcoming week. This is to make sure that we are not missing something important and we are staying on the same page.
3. Biweekly Date.
Typically, we go on a date every other weekend. In our time away, we spend time conversing with one another to ensure we are keeping up with what is going on inside of each other’s hearts.
Since our stress level is lower when we are on a date, the conversation is more natural and not as hurried as it would be in the day-to-day. If you are looking to reignite your passion for dating in your marriage, check out this post.
4. Quarterly Check-Up
A few times a year we go through a list questions to help determine where our marriage is at. This usually occurs on a date night. Here are the questions we go through:
- What’s one thing I like about you?
- What is some new information you have for me?
- What’s one question you have for me about anything?
- What’s one complaint you have about me?
- This one has to be a behavioral complaint.
- What one dream hope or wish that you have?
- What’s one prayer request?
These three different times of communication helps to keep our relationship together. Communication helps keep your marriage together when life it trying to pull it apart.
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What times have you found best to help keep consistent communication with your spouse?