We all start off our weeks believing we will be able to get to the things that are most important. Why then at the end of the week are we no closer to achieving what is most important to us?
Besides my relationship with God, there is nothing more important to me than my wife, Christa. Though she was so important to me, there was a time when I wasn’t being intentional enough in our relationship. I could sense a little tension between us. I realized something needed to change.
This is when I learned about the life planning process, and it had a tremendous impact on my life. In the life plan, you clearly articulate how you desire the most important areas of your life should look, what is your current reality, and how you are going to bridge the gap.
Here is what my current reality looked like years ago within my relationship with Christa.
We are not regularly going on date nights.
I am not interested enough in what she is into.
We are hit or miss with connecting with one another.
Why was one of the most important things in my life was getting neglected? I have come to realize that these three things are needed to create space in your life for what is most important:
1. Define what is most important.
This is where it all has to begin. When you know what is most important, you also realize what is not.
I have written down the most important areas of my life plan which are: God, Christa, children, self, ministry, friends, finances, and health. For you, some of these areas may be the same. You may also have some that I do not depending on your marital status, age, job, etc.
2. Schedule it.
Knowing what is important was not enough. I knew Christa was important, but it wasn’t until it was scheduled that it showed. What gets scheduled will get accomplished, and what does not get scheduled will not.
What is most important should have priority and therefore should be scheduled first. As Stephen Covey says, “you have to put the big rocks in first.”
I keep a running document on what an ideal week looks like. I put what is important to me in the document. For actually scheduling I use google calendar.
3. Let key players in your life in on it.
You need to let the people who these changes will affect in on it. For me, this meant Christa and I got together to talk about and schedule what was most important.
This process helped Christa and I see some positive gains in our relationship with one another. Creating a life plan is one of the key things I work with when I am coaching. The reality is you will either plan your life, or life will plan it for you.
Today what is one area of your life you need to create space for?