Three Reasons to Give Priority to Your Marriage
If you ask most people if their marriage is a top priority, they would probably answer yes. Yet when you look around at the conditions of many marriages, this does not seem to be the case.
I remember a season when my wife and I were not connecting as well as we should. It was frustrating, and we seemed to be firing on different pistons.
Looking back, I believe one of the reasons we were not connecting was that I wasn’t giving her the priority she deserved in my life. Call it what you will, but I was neglecting my most important human relationship, and it was beginning to show.
While making your marriage a priority will not happen by accident, it is well worth the benefit. In fact, I believe that every person should give priority to their marriage because of these three possible benefits.
1. The marriage will last. A lasting marriage is not only part of our plan, but it was God’s original design. Take a look at what Jesus said:
“This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” Mark 10:7-9
Like many people reading this, I grew up in a “broken home,” meaning my parents got divorced. I have very few, if any, memories of my parents leaving the house to go on a date together. I believe if you aren’t intentional at doing things together, one of you will walk out the door alone one day forever.
2. The marriage will remain enjoyable. Someone I know told me a story of their grandmother telling them how long she had been married. I would love to tell you that when her grandmother told her the number of years she had been married, she did so with joy in her voice, but this is not the case. In fact, the wording she used before she gave the number is not something I can say.
Their marriage had fulfilled the first benefit in that it was a lasting relationship, but it was no longer enjoyable. I believe that they had possibly lost giving each other the priority they deserved, and their marriage had gone sour.
Fortunately, I have countless examples of marriages I know that have remained enjoyable for decades. These couples are still into one another, go on dates, vacations, and other adventures together.
3. The marriage will reach its full potential. I remember a season where my wife and I would wait until a Friday night to decide on whether or not to go on a date. Some of those nights we would go on a date, and sometimes we wouldn’t. It was frustrating, and I know we were not reaching our full potential.
My lack of intentionally making our time together a priority caused our relationship to be mediocre.
Much of this changed when I created a personal life blueprint, what others call a life plan. In this plan, you prioritize what is most important to you and then schedule it. Herein is the most important thing you can do:
Schedule time together:
• Dates: My wife and I started to have scheduled date nights every other Friday. Our relationship has been so much stronger, and my wife feels loved and cared for. If you need a boost in your dating life, read this post.
• Vacations: At the time of this writing, a good friend of mine is on a vacation with just him and his wife. He owns a thriving business and has three children, but he understands that he needs to give undistracted time to his marriage. They could have given a million excuses why they couldn’t go, but they knew how important investing in their relationship is.
I believe every couple should have a few overnight getaways a year, plus one that lasts a few days. Remember that you will still be together once the children are out of the home, so this is a good practice.
If I looked at your schedule, I would be able to tell you what is important to you. Take some time this week to schedule time with your spouse because if you don’t, it will get crowded out by the busyness of life. If you need some other ways to bless your spouse, read this post.
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