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One Scripture That Will Help All of Your Relationships

While I don’t believe in any silver bullets in relationships, there are a few simple things you can do that will have a tremendous impact.

Relationships will challenge all of us. Whether it is with your spouse, child, parent, boss, or colleague there will always be times of friction.

The relationship that has challenged me the most is raising children. I get the privilege of not only raising my own son but also being a part of foster children’s lives for short seasons. While I am blessed by the opportunities I have been given, there have been days where I needed a little wisdom in my parenting journey.

At the time of writing this, my wife and I are leading a small parenting group. Each week we watch a twenty-minute teaching, and then we spend the rest of the hour discussing what we learned. One week, during our discussion, a scripture popped into my head that will be helpful in any relationship:

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Jas 1:19
This passage gives you three things you can do to help all your relationships.

1. Quick to listen. When a loved one wants to talk to you, be ready to listen. I truly believe listening to someone is showing respect to someone.

When you listen to someone, it tells them that you care about what they are saying. Someone once told me that the person who had the biggest impact on their life was simply someone who had listened to them.

2. Slow to speak. Our quick responses get us in trouble. When we take a few seconds to filter through our emotions, we are more likely to respond instead of reacting.

We are to T.H.I.N.K before we speak:

  • True. Is what I am about to say true?
  • Helpful. Is what I want to say helpful?
  • Inspiring. Is what I want to say inspiring?
  • Necessary. Is this really necessary to say?
  • Kind. Is what I want to say kind?

The best way to be slow to speak is by being quick to listen. St. Francis of Assisi said, “Seek to understand before seeking to be understood.”

3. Slow to get angry. Anger in itself is not a sin, but the Apostle Paul told us, “to be angry and sin not.” If we allow our anger to control us, we are likely to make snap judgments. All of us can think of a time when we wish we had not allowed our anger to get the better of us.

Many times anger is heightened because of the issues we are already dealing with internally. These could be bitterness, rage, or envy. For this reason, we need to be proactive towards anger by spending time with God and casting our cares on him. If you need help getting your devotional time going, check out this post.

Imagine how much your relationships would be different if you put these three principles to use. People around you would feel loved and respected, and you would have fewer regrets.

Which one of these three is most challenging for you? How have you been able to overcome your struggles with the three principles listed above?
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4 replies
  1. Sam
    Sam says:

    Adding thought to what we do, what a concept! How easy it is for us to React rather than Think about what we say, especially to those we profess undying love and devotion to. Always great content from you good sir. May your Easter Baskets be filled with Joy Happiness and Love my man.

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